New Year's Eve

[Justy Me]

Is anybody else as depressed as I am about New Year's Eve coming up?? I can't stand the thought of another one of those, alone in my room....I can't stop crying lately at the thought of it....I'm at a loss as to why I seem to be the only person I know who is shunned socially by people who do all the other things friends should aside from including me in outings.:33a: I'm usually so optimistic but lately...I feel hopeless

[Gymp]

Hi Justy...

Well,you're not shunned here!

We all suffer from the blues at one time or another and yes I've sat at home by myself more than once to usher in the New Year.I do find though that you shouldn't always sit and wait for the phone to ring,pick it up and make a few calls perhaps you'll find a few events to go to.

Life is what you make it,so give us a big smile,we're all on your side!

Gymp

[angel]

I have spent a few of them alone myself. However there is no shame in going out by yourself. I used to do it all the time. Not that my friends wouldn't have invited me or didn't invite me but i always liked being on my own schedule. Sometimes you just have to throw yourself out there and see who ya meet (but be careful stay away from whackos and anyone that just generally gives you the creeps). I have gone to concerts alone, bars alone, clubs alone, out to eat alone. You never know who you will run into but they aren't gonna know you exist if you don't get out there and meet them! I have gone out on the dancefloor at clubs alone but was never alone by the end of the first song! If you are having a good time you will draw people to you.

Angel

[eng188]

I think all three of you have some wisdom in your posts. It is my birthday tomorrow, and as such, it is the 1st anniversary of a huge falling out with two friends (both able-bodied). I am still hurting, but have also learned alot from it.

As for me, I am very social on bulletin boards, but not in real life. Something about me just attracts the wrong type of person. Religious zealots and those that like to pat our heads and babytalk to us.

Tomorrow, by necessity I have to stick home alone, but the next day, if I can, I am hitting a local pub I like in order to watch a favorite soccer team, and eat and drink well. Usually, I run into fellow supporters of our local pro team, so...better than nothing, by a long shot. Like the previous poster, I can do restaurants alone quite well, but it's always great to run into a good friend.

I've never been to a New Year's. I'd kind of like to, but I don't like crowds of revelers, so....probably alone then, too.

Heck, I wish I fit in better. I think most of us do. But happiness shouldn't only be dependent on inclusion, much less popularity (something I'm lost on, too). Engage in a potentially social interest that you're OK with on your own as well, and see what happens.

Your partner in the blues, blees, and blahs,

eng188

[Gymp]

And a BIG...Happy Birthday To You eng188 !!!!!!!!

I'd consider myself a social person and like interaction where I can see ones eyes (the windows to their souls)...

It seems the older I get the less I like large crowds.When I was younger I loved going to big New Years parties where the din of the crowd was an onslaught to the ears and overindulgence and mayhem was the main theme.
Nowadays I'm quite content to sit on the couch with the wife and bring in the New Year quietly in front of the TV.I do like smaller gatherings of old friends where we can sit back in a small pub or in someones living room or back yard around a small fire and reminisce days gone by and to discuss the relevant topics of the day.

I do also need time to myself where I can ponder where I'm at in life and what more I'd like to do,sort of an inner reflection where it's about me.

We're all different and that's what makes it all sooo interesting from the quiet introverted individual to the loud mouth extrovert there's something in everyone which makes them unique.

Gymp

[Justy Me]

I am glad that going out alone is something that a few of you have been able to do...but in Chicago during this time of year I could not go out alone even if I wanted to. My neighborhood doesn't get towed properly of all the snow, so getting out on my own would pose a problem. Also, I think going out alone on New Year's eve would be a tad depressing as well as dangerous. I can't see how that would work. If I had a car, I would definitely try and make a go of it. I wouldn't need to rely on anyone else to get me out and about. Would be nice. Also, I don't have any friends to visit with. No one that I am awfully close to anyway. I wish I could say I do, but most of my connections with people are very basic, either texting or calling. No one makes more of an effort. I can't force anyone to befriend me. I do try to make lasting connections... I am sociable when presented with a opportunity. It just never sticks. Trust me I know that having hordes of friends is not all there is to life and there are other factors when it comes to happiness. But everyone deserves friendship and the feeling of being included.

[Gymp]

"I could not go out alone even if I wanted to. My neighborhood doesn't get towed properly of all the snow, so getting out on my own would pose a problem."

Chicago is a large city so...Perhaps there are services to help the elderly and disabled to clear the snow at no cost to you,we have such services where I am and it's a medium sized city.

"If I had a car, I would definitely try and make a go of it. I wouldn't need to rely on anyone else to get me out and about."

You could possibly have a public transit branch that caters to the disabled.Where I am there's the regular bus service for able bodied people and ParaTransit which caters to the disabled.To be able to use ParaTransit you have to apply and get a letter from your doctor stating that you're disabled and have mobility issues.My wife uses the ParaTransit system here,she pays $80.00 per month and gets unlimited service.She phones the service and books when and where she wants to go.They come to your doorstep in a modified van to pick you up and then take you directly to your destination then home again at a predetermined time.If I want to ride along with her all I have to do is pay the amount of a regular bus fare.The only drawback to our ParaTransit system is that you have to book two weeks in advance,if you have a doctor's appointment and it's only within a week that you call they really do try to squeeze you in.This may be well worth looking into for you.

Gymp