Sibling Frustation

[technovicki]

Just curious if anyone with brothers and/or sisters have been irritated/pissed/angry or little jealous of them because they waste away their ability to do things and be active. For me every so often my big brother or little sister (yes, I'm a middle child) get me so frustrated. I think they would frustrate me regardless because some of their hang ups have nothing to do with physical ability or limitation. But neither of them are active nor want to be. I guess I was born with spina bifida and the competitive gene in the family. My brother played some sports in school but would always quit the team and my sister preferred reading a book than being outside. I was an outside kid, from dawn to dusk and loved playing with the boys (super-tomboy, plus no girls my age lived in the neighborhood). I played baseball (had a pinch-runner, pitched or played 1st base), basketball (in bounder and long outside shooter) and even football (designated QB for both sides), till this day I've never been accused of "throwing like a girl". My grandmother meant well but she would tell my mom not to let me play with the boys but my mom knew how much I enjoyed it (Mom's Rock!) and never stopped me. And even then my brother would play outside but not even half way through a game would he go inside because it was too hot and he was tired.

Now that we are older I am the only one who went to college, which was in a city 3 hours away and I was just 17. I've moved out and kept my own place and currently live the farthest by a 1000+ miles. I have never outgrown "playing' and continued with cycling and just a couple of years ago was going to the gym and had a personal trainer. I did it because I loved working out and hope to get back into once I'm cleared to begin again. I love my sister and brother very much but sometimes I think, "If I was you I would be doing this, that and the other" instead of just sitting around. They have always been supportive of everything I've done so it's me with the problem not them and just try to remind myself it's just not who they are.

I think God packed in all this will and determination to keep me motivated and constantly pushing myself and am very grateful for that. Oh and I do know its not just my brother and sister because some of my friends are the same way but I guess since we have the same parents it feels more personal. And because I am competitive at work which is brain power over physical strength its just who I am naturally.

[angel]

I can see how you would feel that way. My brother and sister (i am the youngest) are about the same as i am. Or maybe it was i had no choice because they were always chasing me around the yard wanting me to climb trees with them, ride bikes (i couldn't so my brother tied a string from his bike to mine and would pull me behind him)
We are all very different in ways but again i just chalk it up to we are just different people. My sister coaches a preteen girls basketball team. My brother is in the gym every other day and even wrestled for awhile (WWF style) I never played competitive sports. I think it would be fun to do but was never something i was driven to do. I am not the most competitive person in the world it is just not in my nature however i like to stay active. I never cared to watch sports, i was always more of a loner type kid. I don't think it is SB related i think it is just who i am.
Now the thing i can tell you is if my brother or sister ever caught me slacking off or gaining a lot of weight and endangering my ablility to walk or my health they would be crawling all over me to get my butt up and do something about it. So far it hasn't been an issue but that is how me and my siblings are.

Angel

[Dodger67]

So you're one of those irritating over-achievers like my sister and younger brother! :sign0020:

[technovicki]

So you're one of those irritating over-achievers like my sister and younger brother! :sign0020:

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It's true Dodger, and it sometimes really irritates me...though I wouldn't necessarily wrap it all up in 'over-achiever' category :)

[NerdaliciouS]

I get irritated sometimes. They could be doing all this stuff, and I can't. I used to be able to do a bunch of stuff, and it's gotten to the point... Just no. And now they just sit inside and do computer stuff. I admit, I'm online a bit, but there are reasons for that. I'm the eldest! I get to watch over them like they're my own, and it depresses me. It's even worse cause I understand some of the bad things they're going through and it drives me nuts.
I just wish they'd do something else, JUST TO SEE if they'd enjoy it.

I took a pain pill (OMG! I TOOK SOMETHING!?) that actually got rid of everything one day, and I didn't stop running. I would not stop. My ribs didn't hurt, the breathing wasn't all "OMG I'M GONNA DIE!", I just ran with no pain. Then when it wore off, it hit me like a brick. I hate it. I wanna run around. :( I told them to do something, cause if I could, I don't think I'd ever stop running. I love it. Or I did.

Don't miss something 'til it's gone. =/

[Gymp]

Ahhhhhhhh yep...
I have two younger sisters that sleep til noon every day and do pretty much nothing for the rest of the day.If there's some work that needs to be done at my Ma's house,the only people who show up are my eldest sister and I.

Gymp

[LisaJoy]

I'm really lucky -- I'm a middle child too, but my sisters and I are a lot alike. We are all three overachievers, although it took my younger sister until her mid-twenties to realize it. She rebelled against being like her big sisters and did a several-year stint on the underachieving track. She took a clerical job at Texas Instruments out of high school and just took a community college class here and there, not really progressing toward a degree. She was a trade show coordinator -- without a degree, the job was cllassed as clerical. If she had a degree, she'd make double the money doing the same job! But what really helped her find herself was meeting teachers at electronics conventions (she worked in educational products at TI). She realized one day that she really wanted to be a teacher. Quit her job, went to college full time, made straight A's, won a scholarship and several awards. In high school she wasn't the best student (part of the whole rebelling thing). She's a very successful 8th grade language arts teacher & team leader at her school now. And has fully embraced being just like her sisters!

None of us are over-achievers when it comes to physical fitness, LOL, so I have no occasion for frustration!

[Gymp]

Ahhhhhhhh yep...
I have two younger sisters that sleep til noon every day and do pretty much nothing for the rest of the day.If there's some work that needs to be done at my Ma's house,the only people who show up are my eldest sister and I.Gymp

Hmmmm....I think that kinda sounded a bit harsh.
I do love and care deeply about my 2 younger sisters.I just wished they'd get up and get out and about.I realize it's their choice but ??????????? To me life's to short to be sitting in a house all day.

Gymp

Gymp

[sean]

Bit of a nuisance at times, but I was born into a strong ? Irish Catholic work ethic, if your awake your working. I have to push myself to do time on the couch, getting better at it as I age.
Three of my older brothers were incredibly competetive, rugby, sport, women, kids, toys cars, houses, careers, money, attention. I think it created a distance betwen them as they got older.
Now I'm older, it glares at me when I see particularly young folk actively doing nothing, wasting precious youth and time. I see they don't get it yet.
Excactly, 'don't know what you've got til it's gone', but how do you teach that to someone who has it all?......you just want to shake some sense into them.
I think I can be a bit non stop too enthused annoying. Never had to but I'd dig a hole to fill it in, just to have something to do, moveing forward.
Excuse me, but ?????where I'm coming from ? competitiveness seems like 99% losers and a winner...just don't get it. (must have been behind the door for that lesson).
Alert!!!! amature Psych'.
Between siblings...very risky business, what are you doing...is it a power struggle with yourself to over compensate for your insecurities. Keeping your insecurities alive......I can do, done all this!...and look at me!..with a disability!
It can't be good competeing/comparing siblings.
I do enjoy being older and being able to grump about the youth of today!!!!