Sibling resentment w/enema time

[bcain]

Since beginning the nightly enema routine in FEB, my 9yr has been put to bed by daddy instead of mommy. I could feel the distance growing between us. The jealousy monster was growing. Even when daddy stepped in to take my place in the bathroom, I was snubbed by my 9yr. saying "she didn't want to read with me, she'd wait for daddy." A few times I insisted she come in with us(when daddy was busy) and I would read to her. Then one night Sarah and I were playing with playdoh during Emmy time, and Laura wanted to come play with us. Her attitude has changed dramatically. Laura hurries to get herself ready for bed early, so she can play with us in the bathroom. We do have fun, we watch DVD's, play with legos, coloring, read books.

I also regularly buy some new small toys to play with, and that keeps Laura interested as well as Sarah. Last night, big sister Laura actually set up the tray table and toilet side sitting stools. Had Sarah undressed waist down and sitting ready on the toilet. Everyone just waiting for mom to hang the solution.LOL! I'm sure this will build a special relationship for us. I'm looking forward to the next level of DVDs, for I am tired of Caillou, Clifford the big red dog, Sesame Street. I want to watch Monsters Inc., War of the Buttons, Mr. Magoriums Wonder Imporium.....Toy Story..... hopefully soon.
It might seem wierd, family time in the bathroom..... but it has seemed to calm the jealousy monster for now. Even wierder is when Sarah needs a snack because she didn't eat much supper. She just ignores what I'm doing, has her snack and watches DVDs. Her hands stay clean ....she doesn't touch anything to do with Emmy. Still coping, still at it. Sarah's still clean all day! Yeah!

[Jess&Madi]

Kudos 2 U Momma! Haven't had 2 deal w/that (yet), but thx 4 the advice:)

[mumtotwo]

its so hard to work the timing for two kids so both get some one to one time. Theres only 14mths between my 2 and at 1.5 and 2.5 and a partner who works 24-7 I find it increasly hard to split my time. we don't do enemas yet but even the ordinary bed time is increasly difficult as katie likes stories and a cuddle in bed but jamie wrecks around too much to sit a listen and disturbs her but it takes about a hour to change, feed, cath, wash jamie and get him settled in bed all that time katie is crying for her bed at moment i let her watch peppa pig in her bed till i ready just don't know how long it'll last for.
You seem to hae hit the nail on the head good luck

[bcain]

:scream:
It was good for awhile.....now that big sister wants to join in every night with us and try to dictate what activity we do..... it's becoming tiresome. I may have to put some limits on this for my own sanity. Entertaining the two of them everynight ....together for 45 minutes is putting me back a little for some quiet time. Big sister is helpful, but the extra energy in the room is draining. I long for some reading time again, even if it's only 5 mins.!!!

[Cookebeth]

it may seem weird to other people but we have bathroom bonding time as well! we actually do homework for my older daughter in the bathroom because there just isn't enough time in the day to get it all done. We still read every night, after the enema and homework they get showers and baths and then everyone goes to bed and we read a book. It really is exhausting but what can we do?

[bcain]

That's a good name for it. LOL! I think I will miss it, when she becomes older and independent. Tonight we got a Halloween movie to watch in the DVD player. The three of us each have our own small foot stool we sit on, and of course Sarah has the 'throne'.