Wife of Husband with SB

[wifey]

Hi! I'm Wifey and I'm connected to SB in just that way. I married my husband 2 years ago. He has SB and I didn't know a thing about it. I am wanting to learn more, esp. from wives of those who have SB.
Truthfully, I am searching out what I can and cannot expect from my husband. I don't want to ask for too much and I want to know how to be encouraging. In what ways is his ability affected by his disability.
Not remembering right now what his diagnosis is. I'll post that later.
My biggest question for now is - are there any wives out there?

thanks,
Wifey

[Lifeisgood]

Hi Wifey,
I am not a wife (I have SB myself), but wanted to welcome you to the gang. It is great that you are on here and it is a great place to learn about how different people are all affected by SB.
The thing with SB is that we are all impacted in different ways. There are different types of SB and we all have varying levels of ability. The best person to learn about what you can and cannot expect from your husband in regards to SB is probably your husband himself. :) The only reason why I am saying that is because each of our experiences are so unique and there is no "typical" case of SB. We each have differing levels of ability and SB has affected us in different ways, even if our diagnoses are similar in terms of type of SB and the level where the defect is. However, this site will be a great resource for you to learn about SB in general and to get an idea of the ways in which SB can impact us, and to be in community with others who either have SB or love someone who does. (I am pretty sure there are some spouses or significant others out there). It's great that you want to learn more and I encourage you to read through all of the different posts (especially in the adults section) and ask questions!
We look forward to getting to know you!

[angel]

Welcome to the group. I am the wife with SB and my husband is the husband with the wife that has sb lol. Anyway don't know if i can help but will be glad to answer any questions you have. Our life is pretty normal I mean I do all the things that any other wife would do. I take care of kids, pets, home and him. I drive, work, and just everything else that anyone else would do. My husband doesn't treat me like I am made of glass (he did when we first got married and I told him if this was gonna work he had to stop that)
He knows if i need help I have no problem asking for it. As far as my "care" I take care of myself, no help required from him at least not yet. We came to the understanding that if i need him to do something, tell him, and he will do it.
It is simple communication and it works good for us.
As far as comments made by others about our relationship some have been made. He says he don't see what the big damn deal is and it isn't any of thier business anyway.

Angel

[Gymp]

Hi Wifey,welcome to the forum!I'm a husband with SB,my wife (no SB) is in a wheelchair due to an automobile accident some years ago.We've been together now for 13 years,in essence we take care of each other if that makes any sense?We're just an ordinary married couple doing what regular couples do,except that I limp when I walk and the wife doesn't walk.We've got 2 adult kids and 4 grandchildren to boot.

Don't worry too much about what you can or can't expect from your husband it should all just fall into place one way or the other.Most of all,just grow together.

Gymp

[sean]

I've been the hubby with SB, LOL! he will need complete and utter devotion. You need to be there for his every whim every minute of every day. Neck massages, scalp massages, pedicures and manicures. You'll need to feed, bathe and dress him, keep the remote clean ect. Men with Spina Bifida need to be treated like royalty by thier women.
Just a few tips LOL!!!!!

[Dodger67]

Then Sean wakes up and realises it was all just a dream! :sign0020:

Hello Wifey
Welcome! :happy065:
I'm another adult male with SB.

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